Pretty cheesy, but I’ll cheese away!
I’m so excited to celebrate the New Year with my family!
My only resolution is to do everything with love and with everything I’ve got!
What are your resolutions?
Those words, are what we hear far -too many times.
I know people don’t “know” that we’re actually trying. Or, that we can’t get pregnant. So it’s not intentional to make us sad, mad, irritated. I don’t hold a grudge or want to punch them for asking.
It’s just hard to have a response. Husband always tells people that we are trying. I’ve asked him why if it’s been this long and no baby? What if people start talking? His response is usually ” who cares what they say?”
I do. Lol.
So I usually roll my eyes or make this ” I’m scared of babies” look.
What have you done to avoid an awkward question as such?
So I’ve gone back and forth in my head if I should even post this. And quite honestly , I’m glad I’m coming forward.
I want to address a little bump in the road for my husband and I. I’m speaking about, infertility.
For those of you who know me, please respect our privacy and not bring it up to us or to others.
We dated for 5 1/2 years before he popped the question and had a short (5 month) engagement. Why? Well, we lived together for already 4 years at that point and had already decided, we wanted to be a family. I’m talking about having some babies!
The struggle is real and I wanted to blog about it because I know, there are so many women and men going through the same struggle we are going through.
Not getting pregnant!
I don’t even know where else to start but from the beginning.
My husband and I moved in together a year and a half after dating. As soon as we moved in, we decided- we want kids. So we tried.
I wouldn’t say we gave it our all like we are now with OPKs and BBT- ing and watching what we eat,drink, etc. But, we were officially “trying to conceive.”
We tried for a year before I decided to get into the doc’s. She said I had low progesterone levels and also a tilted uterus but that was nothing to be concerned about ( the uterus part of it.)
I was sad, we were sad and decided to just give it a break.
One year goes by and we get back into it really wanting a baby. Not that it ever left our minds or hearts, we just decided it was good to try again.
I go back to the doc and she tells me my hormone levels are fine now. Try another year and if no luck, come see me. In fact, have him make an appointment too.
So we try this time again, still no babies!
At this point I’m in getting blood tests, pelvic exams and ultrasounds every few months to make sure I’m still ovulating and that my hormones are still ok.
So now my husband is up to bat and strikes out; to put it in a kinder way. He just really thought if it’s supposed to happen, it will. I think he was scared to hear he may be the reason as to why it wasn’t happening for us.
Two years just about pass by and we talk about marriage. We’re in love, it’s been 5 1/2 years, we want to be, one. And of course babies come up, again. We get married and immediately, husband says
” we’re officially trying to conceive.”
We allowed 3 months to go by and this time- he goes in to get tested. I was so happy he took the step. His analysis came back great, and he was ” good to go.”
So we sit here 6 months into marriage, still no baby. I’m ovulating every month, his sperm is healthy, my hormone levels are fine.
It’s just heart breaking every month. We do whatever we can to get pregnant.
I’m hoping along this journey I meet others who can relate because, no one I know personally can.
This should stay interesting….
Have you ever heard of Lush Cosmetics?
you’re living under a rock and you really need to come out dammit…It’s the best place, ever! I’ve heard of it by many, but just barely got my booty in there a few weeks a go. And now, I’m a wee bit obsessed.
I took it slow and started with face masks.
These are the two I got:
So they both have stolen my heart. They smell, amazing! You have to keep them refrigerated and they have an expiration date.
Honestly, that’s the one thing I don’t love about them. They don’t deliver the masks. Boo…
I’m just a lazy and don’t wanna have to get up, and go get more.
They both make my face feel so clean. And the way my skin looks when I removed the mask, is beautiful. My pores are invisible, my skin glows and it feels like butter, baby.
I picked out the Ayesha and the Catastrophe Cosmetic. I fan faved the Ayesha only because it smelled better. Yup, I’m that kinda person.
Have you tried out any of the Lush products? If so, what do you recommend I try out next?
Every girl out there should know- your skin is the first line of defense. Be careful what you put on it. That also includes- make-up!
For some time now, I have been using all sorts of low end and high end foundations. I must admit- I never thought about using lower end stuff until I started watching make up tutorials on You Tube. So, I gave it a shot!
I decided to write reviews on all three products I have used in the past couple of years.
The three BEST for my skin are these lovely guys:
My colors are ( because sometimes people want/need to know these things)
L’Oreal True Match: W6
Make-up Forever HD Foundation: 128 Almond
Bobbi Brown Long Wearing Foundation- Natural 4
My absolute favorite would HAVE to be Bobbi Brown. She just really, truly knows my skin. It works the best for me. It moisturizes on the dry days and mattes on the hot and humid ones.
L’Oreal True Match- Not an absolute bad low end product. I’ve tried Revlon’s Color Stay and L’Oreal is by far, the winner out of the two. I gotta give it to them: they have many shades to choose from. I like to blend W6 and W5 in the winter, when I’m not as tanned. It’s pretty matte, so in the winter I don’t feel the need to “lock in” the product so just use the foundation alone. It’s build-able but for the most part, I only use one layer. It has a matte finish but I still have to set it with powder or I’ll have to touch up by noon.
Make- up Forever HD- you are my 2nd favorite!!! I love the natural look it leaves. I love that it leaves me feeling like i don’t really have anything on my face. I personally, love the full coverage look because I have dark circles under my eyes ( thanks Mom!) and I don’t like using concealer. So, with that said, that is the ONLY reason why it’s a deal breaker for me. I tend to use this in the fall and winter when the pollen isn’t high and my dark circles are hiding. 🙂 Great selection of shades as well to choose from. I use a primer and setting spray, no powder, no touch ups needed until about 3pm but just on my “T zone.”
Bobbi Brown- You’re the best $48.00 I have spent on make- up in a long time. I have pretty good skin, but I love the look of make up and I love looking like I am wearing make up! I get a matte finish with this product but I do like to use a setting spray in the summer to keep my grease free. It feels like silk going on my face and I never have to touch up while I am at my 8am-5pm, job. So I do agree with the bottle when it says “long lasting”. They don’t have too many shades, that is really the only downfall. Luckily for me, I found my match. This product is my holy grail.
I truly believe, you get what you pay for. I kinda choke a little when I am buying a $48 product- BUT- I look at it as: I am going to pay $8 for a tiny bottle that equals to half of the Make up Forever or Bobbi Brown AND i have to add powder to “set it” on top using it a lot more than the higher end products. In the end, the low end product costs less but you go through it faster, it doesn’t last as long and you end up paying the same or maybe more, than the higher end.
What are your favorite foundations? Do you like the lower end more than higher end?
” It’s just a piece of paper.”
That right there, are words uttered to me quite a few times while engaged.
I would either: smile and nod ( awkward!) or, agree ( awkward!).
I feel so bad when I hear people say it. I remember thinking: “I don’t care if I get married…. ” but, that was the furthest from the truth. My husband and I talked about marriage after days of dating. I just wanted him to know that was my ultimate goal. I wanted to find a husband and father to our children and I wanted to do it in the way that God designed it to be. He agreed, he believed in marriage and family. Most importantly, we both we knew we needed marriage because God said we need it.
I pray for those who don’t believe in traditional marriage all the time. I don’t judge them for their beliefs or thoughts on marriage because we have all been there. And whose to know- maybe they just haven’t met ” the right one” to change their mind. Or maybe they just need to read the word of God, to see why it’s needed more than ever.
I’ve read the Word and came across a couple of powerful scriptures that back the case up more than I could ever do.
God created marriage. Here is a scripture on the first wedding.
Gen. 2:18, 21-24
The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him’…and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh.
Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’ For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything.
As my wonderful Pastor put it: The relationship between husband and wife illustrates the relationship between God and the church.
Now how’s that for it being a piece of paper?
There is nothing in the world like the devotion of a married woman. It’s a thing no married man knows anything about. (Oscar Wilde)